Wow; if your dad saw you as "his instrument in the fight for progressive political change," that really didn't leave much room for your ambitions, did it? What if you wanted to be a watchmaker and live in a tower and make beautiful things, for instance? Didn't you get a say?
It is my belief that any solution to our current kyriarchy has to involve a lot of both/and solutions. And speaking as a working married mom who has made so many rash decisions and then had to carry them through (not just in my relationships), everyday life involves so many compromises.
I think it's going to be both radical change AND within-system. Not one or the other.
For example, my husband is 51 and his father was born in 1930. All you have to do to see how much feminism has already accomplished is to compare my husband's attitudes about women and caring for children with his dad's.
Yes, there's such a long way to go. And I am in no way hung up on the sanctity of marriage; no one is happier than I to see its meanings challenged from all directions. But we've accomplished a lot since 1930. However, it is true that my life is a compromise. But then, everyone's pretty much is, with a few big exceptions. That's okay, though. It's made me compassionate.
I always enjoy your thinky. Be good to yourself along the way.
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Date: 2014-05-11 12:19 pm (UTC)It is my belief that any solution to our current kyriarchy has to involve a lot of both/and solutions. And speaking as a working married mom who has made so many rash decisions and then had to carry them through (not just in my relationships), everyday life involves so many compromises.
I think it's going to be both radical change AND within-system. Not one or the other.
For example, my husband is 51 and his father was born in 1930. All you have to do to see how much feminism has already accomplished is to compare my husband's attitudes about women and caring for children with his dad's.
Yes, there's such a long way to go. And I am in no way hung up on the sanctity of marriage; no one is happier than I to see its meanings challenged from all directions. But we've accomplished a lot since 1930. However, it is true that my life is a compromise. But then, everyone's pretty much is, with a few big exceptions. That's okay, though. It's made me compassionate.
I always enjoy your thinky. Be good to yourself along the way.