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St. Valentine's Day
Feb. 14th, 2007 12:23 pmA happy happy to you all--though I know that this one's got some baggage attached.
I'm sort of glad the The Boy and I don't do Valentine's Day. Our anniversary is next week, and we've just always figured that it was silly, not to mention expensive, to do two romantic celebrations within two weeks. And Valentine's Day gets all clogged up with shaming single people, and consumerism, and you can't get in to any of the good restaurants and every one is trying to sell you unattractive kitschy pink things.
So next week we'll have a party, and Valentine's Day gets to be for family. Got a box from my mum and dad in the mail today. Alas, my valentines aren't going to make it in time, because campus mail doesn't go out on the weekends, and I didn't get them finished before it went out Friday.
(I can't buy valentines. Can't. even when we were little kids and had to make them for eveyone in the class, so like thirty, we made them by hand. Took weeks. One corner of the kitchen would turn in to heart-n-flowers central, and there would be lots of doilies and collages and glue and victorian stickers. And then there was that one year where we used gold embossing on all of them. That was pretty cool. So this year, the grandparents and the aunts and uncles and cousins got collages with poetry.)
The concept of everyone celebrating romance on the same day both repels and attracts me. Because the shared energy, the synergy, that's great. But the consumerism and the societal pressures and the invisibility of singles offsets that, at least for me. Celebrate all loves, not just romantic/sexual ones. Love yourselves today, y'all. And love your lovers and your friends and your kin.
I'm sort of glad the The Boy and I don't do Valentine's Day. Our anniversary is next week, and we've just always figured that it was silly, not to mention expensive, to do two romantic celebrations within two weeks. And Valentine's Day gets all clogged up with shaming single people, and consumerism, and you can't get in to any of the good restaurants and every one is trying to sell you unattractive kitschy pink things.
So next week we'll have a party, and Valentine's Day gets to be for family. Got a box from my mum and dad in the mail today. Alas, my valentines aren't going to make it in time, because campus mail doesn't go out on the weekends, and I didn't get them finished before it went out Friday.
(I can't buy valentines. Can't. even when we were little kids and had to make them for eveyone in the class, so like thirty, we made them by hand. Took weeks. One corner of the kitchen would turn in to heart-n-flowers central, and there would be lots of doilies and collages and glue and victorian stickers. And then there was that one year where we used gold embossing on all of them. That was pretty cool. So this year, the grandparents and the aunts and uncles and cousins got collages with poetry.)
The concept of everyone celebrating romance on the same day both repels and attracts me. Because the shared energy, the synergy, that's great. But the consumerism and the societal pressures and the invisibility of singles offsets that, at least for me. Celebrate all loves, not just romantic/sexual ones. Love yourselves today, y'all. And love your lovers and your friends and your kin.