His parents had a bad marriage, which explains everything, I think, though best stated through the episode where he walks out on Anya.
I don't think it's that he's queer or poly, he's just never sure on any woman because he's always imagining it ending in a horrible marriage, so he flits around and sabotages the relationship he is in, trying to find someone so perfect for him that even he can't screw it up. That's not how it works, though, so it's not looking good for Xander on the enduring love front.
I am wondering, though; if he did turn gay (like he asked Will to make him in that one episode as a joke) would that make it easier for him to commit? The relationship wouldn't mirror that of his parents, so it might just trick his mind into believing it could last.
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Date: 2009-09-14 06:28 am (UTC)I don't think it's that he's queer or poly, he's just never sure on any woman because he's always imagining it ending in a horrible marriage, so he flits around and sabotages the relationship he is in, trying to find someone so perfect for him that even he can't screw it up. That's not how it works, though, so it's not looking good for Xander on the enduring love front.
I am wondering, though; if he did turn gay (like he asked Will to make him in that one episode as a joke) would that make it easier for him to commit? The relationship wouldn't mirror that of his parents, so it might just trick his mind into believing it could last.