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I do not think these are healthy or useful ways to look at SEX. Notches on the bedpost was bad enough, or how many times per night they could Do It, but really, these are taking the whole thing to new levels.
My boyfriend sees sex as a competition he is losing. How can I change his mind?:
He feels like he doesn’t perform enough (he does) and worries he isn’t big enough (he is!). He grew up without a father – the father’s fault – and I wonder if this has something to do with it. How can I assist him to see sex as non-competitive?:
Response:I assume he doesn’t think he’s losing the competition with you, somehow, but with imagined manly foes, comparisons, symbols of everything he (imagines he) isn’t?
I suppose there isn't actually some scoreboard somewhere out there Rate My Manly Performance but I wouldn't entirely rule that out, alas.
Because of this: Sperm-racing investors blow $10 million on ‘seed round’ for sports venture:
Last weekend, Zhu flew to YouTuber David Dobrik’s slick white Los Angeles mansion, collected the sperm of three influencers, and injected it onto a small race track as a crowd gathered in the living room. The competitors — Harry Jowsey, Jason Nash, and Ilya Fedorovich — watched a video of their swimmers, overlaid with animated tadpoles, zoom to the finish line.
Apparently, 'Zhu insists he has a deeper, more profitable mission: to gamify health and build an empire around male fertility'.
Yeah, well, I'm over here going
a) tortoise and hare, and are those sprinters whooshing right past the ovum in their mad gallop?
b) bit of an assumption that they are actually, you know, viably fertile, which I don't think at all correlates with speed. Motility is one thing, having what it takes to fertilise that ovum is another (and haven't I read something somewhere about It Is The Ovum That Chooses? Heh.)
c) Mary Ellman's image in Thinking About Women: 'the activity of ova involves a daring and independence absent, in fact, from the activity of spermatozoa, which move in jostling masses, swarming out on signal like a crowd of commuters from the 5:15.
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Draggy and depressing first season, really fun and engaging second season with an infuriating letdown of a season ending. (Even sudden surprise Jessica Henwick could not salvage that hot mess. Which apparently is the books' fault, but still.) I enjoyed most of the season two character arcs enough that I'm pretty happy to consider it a satisfying 2-season show. Maybe I'll write up more details later?Feel free to ask me questions in the comments. I have not read the books it's based on, though I get the impression the show follows the book trajectory pretty closely.
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New AO3 canonicals I worked on during this round of NF Syn Hunters
Technically the round ends on the 30th, but I'm not jumping on any new tags at this point! So this is the final version of the list.
I thought about emoji-coding these based on how much work I did ("just one of the final syn checks", "some of the synning", "basically all the synning", etc)...then decided, no, that's too much effort. The point is, over the last 3 months, I did Some Amount Of Wrangling on every single one of these:
- Humans Are Space Orcs
- Cottagecore
- Clit Play
- Roommates to Lovers
- Pussy Spanking
- Fangs
- Strangers to Friends
- Reader-Insert Has Scars
- No Use of Y/N for Reader-Insert
- Sexual Free Use
- Soulmate Goose of Enforcement
- Paranoid Reader-Insert
- Gamer Reader-Insert
- Enemy to Caretaker
- Biting Kink
- Purring
- Cis Male Reader-Insert
- Cis Female Reader-Insert
- Masochist Reader-Insert
- Phone Sex Operators
- Breeding Kink
- Mercenary Reader-Insert
- Fighting as Foreplay
- Past Trans Mpreg | Trans Male Pregnancy
- Reader-Insert is Bad at Feelings
- Wholesome
- Kabeshiri | Stuck in a Wall
- Underage Reader-Insert
- Forced Proximity
- Incontinence
- Reader-Insert Wears a Dress
- Shapeshifter Reader-Insert
- Siren Reader-Insert
- Reader-Insert Needs Therapy
- POV Reader-Insert
- Reader-Insert Wears Glasses
- Innocent Reader-Insert
- Conlangs | Constructed Languages
- TTS | Text-to-Speech Podfic
- Micropodfic
- Character Has Had Bottom Surgery
- Character Has Not Had Bottom Surgery
- Bottom Surgery
- Rivals to Lovers
- Teenage Reader-Insert
- Character Has Had Top Surgery
- Top Surgery Scars
- Mpreg | Male Pregnancy
- Transmasculine Reader-Insert
- Transfeminine Reader-Insert
- English Is Not The Author's First Language
- Autistic Characters
- Reader-Insert Needs a Hug
- Desi Reader-Insert
- Asian Reader-Insert
- Mind Break
- Gender-Neutral Reader-Insert
- Genderless Reader-Insert
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2 sets of Purrcy; blogcomment record: the demographic transition in France
Purrcy was very concerned, walking hunched and close to the floor, because there had been the distant sounds of a *very* large growling something out there in the sky earlier ... he REALLY hates the Thunder Growler, this is his Sad Face about it
My new icon is Clio, the Muse of History, from this painting by Dutch Golden Age artist Johannes Moreelse, because she doesn't look *at all* like a Greek goddess picking heroes, she's a young woman taking notes on your stupid-ass behavior.
Last week Bret Devereaux's Friday post was On the Use and Abuse of Malthus, and I commented:
The standard description of the demographic transition has a important counterexample. Birth rates in France started falling in the 18th century, before industrialization or a drop in infant mortality. Guillaume Blanc's 2023 paper, The Cultural Origins of the Demographic Transition in France, begins with a quote from Malthus, in fact. Blanc presents preliminary evidence that France's demographic transition was the result of secularization & anti-clericalism.
A reasonable level of birth control could be achieved using only materials found in the home (mutual masturbation, coitus interruptus--not to mention oral sex, sodomy, or the other thousand & one fun activities that are not PiV), once French people stopped worrying what God wanted them to do. The assumption that premodern people *had* to have as many offspring as possible is not supported by this evidence.
Faustine Perrin (2022) suggests that the Enlightenment/the Revolution/anticlericalism led to a rising level of felt equality for French women in marriages, so that they were better able to assert their desire to bear fewer children.
In the present day, this ties into the work of 2023 Nobel Prize winner Claudia Goldin, whose article on The Downside of Fertility I just read because she talked about Bujold's Vorkosigan series in an economics podcast. TLDR: Bearing & raising children is hard work, labor even, and women are reluctant to do it if they don't have help.
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Osprey's Koseret Green
When I asked the customer support person about the color name, I got back what I'm pretty sure was AI slop, so I guess they just picked it because it sounds interesting. Koseret, Lippia abyssinica.
Grateful to have a new pack! In addition to being a different color, they've made slight improvements, but it's essentially the same.
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Daily Happiness
2. After having such good success with a couple other local restaurants we'd been meaning to check out for a while, today we decided to check out another one, a pizza place semi-attached to a little Indian market. They have some interesting toppings as well as standard stuff, and the one that caught our eye was paneer pizza. It has mozzarella but also big slices of paneer, plus red onions and jalapeños. The menu says marinara sauce, but it did not taste like regular marinara sauce. All in all it was super tasty. We had meant to just get a slice each and eat there, but it turns out they don't sell by the slice on weekends, so we got a medium pizza and took it home to eat. My stomach could not eat more than three pieces, but my mouth really wanted to finish the whole thing (sadly I do not like leftover pizza, so Carla will be eating the leftovers instead). Definitely will get that again.
3. Look at this little guy!

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If you subscribe to me on AO3 and you don't like my poetry, I am so, so sorry (insincere). This will continue unabated, as I just came to the (un)fortunate realization that I can do limericks for Kinktober.
For anyone whose ears perked up at the mention of Kinktober, here's a possible kink list for you.
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LInks: medical (EDS, ME/CFS, Covid)
TGD individuals demonstrated a significantly higher prevalence of hEDS and HSD than cisgender individuals (OR: 18.45). The prevalence among TGD individuals assigned female at birth was 2.62%, and among those assigned male at birth, 1.00%, compared with 0.16% and 0.04% in cisgender females and males, respectively. Hormone therapy status was not associated with significant differences in prevalence.
Exciting New Research Sheds Light on hEDS Biology, study by Griggs M, Gensemer C, et al..
The researchers found 35 blood proteins that were different in people with hEDS compared to those without. Most of these changes were in proteins linked to the immune system, blood clotting, blood pressure, and inflammation. The largest group of changes involved the complement system, which helps the body fight infection and control inflammation.
Factsheet: The immune system and ME/CFS by ME Research UK.
ME/CFS is no longer viewed as a complete “mystery.” A simple PubMed search reveals hundreds of biomedical studies showing measurable differences between people with ME/CFS and healthy controls.
The symptoms are coming from inside the house. (& Long Covid Prevention Tips!) by Nyx Mir. Lots of good info!
COVID is most often transmitted via the air, not droplets like we thought early in the pandemic. As such: Fresh air will be your easiest and most effective option, assuming climate safety. Even a slightly open window will be MUCH better than closed windows.
Indefinitely Ill – Post-Covid Fatigue by Maria.
If you have had Covid-19 (tested or not), and are getting to a month or two on and still feel like you’ve been hit by a bus, please, for the love of God, rest.
CONVALESCE.
Huntington's disease successfully treated for first time by James Gallagher.
The new treatment is a type of gene therapy given during 12 to 18 hours of delicate brain surgery. [...] "We never in our wildest dreams would have expected a 75% slowing of clinical progression," she said.
Mortality caused by tropical cyclones in the United States by Rachel Young & Solomon Hsiang.
We estimate that the average Tropical Cyclone generates 7,000–11,000 excess deaths, exceeding the average of 24 immediate deaths reported in government statistics6,7. Tracking the effects of 501 historical storms, we compute that the TC climate of CONUS imposes an undocumented mortality burden that explains a substantial fraction of the higher mortality rates along the Atlantic coast and is equal to roughly 3.2–5.1% of all deaths.
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No True Pair 2025 8 Character Round
Chapters: 28/28
Fandom: Transformers - All Media Types
Rating: General Audiences
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Characters: Optimus Prime, Starscream (Transformers), Thundercracker (Transformers), Megatron (Transformers), Charlie Watson, Mikaela Banes, Original Femme Character(s) (Transformers), Original Seeker Character(s) (Transformers)
Additional Tags: Snippets, Background Relationships, Crossovers & Fandom Fusions
Summary:
28 ficlets involving a madlibs style matching between all 8 chosen characters.
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SkyStar Week 2025
Chapters: 7/7
Fandom: Transformers Generation One
Rating: General Audiences
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Jetfire | Skyfire/Starscream (Transformers)
Characters: Jetfire | Skyfire (Transformers), Starscream (Transformers)
Additional Tags: Snippets, SkyStar Week 2025, Dysfunctional Relationships, Pre-Canon, Post-Canon
Summary:
7 days of prompted drabbles
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Culinary
Last week's bread did some spectacular mould action, bah, so I made the light rye loaf from Elizabeth David's English Bread and Yeast Cookery, discovering as I weighed out the ingredients that I had rather less strong white flour than I thought and had to make up the requisite proportion with white spelt. Turned out v nice, though.
No Saturday breakfast rolls because of rushing off to conference.
Today's lunch: pork spare ribs, which I rubbed with a mix of maple sugar, hot and sweet smoked paprikas, black pepper, garlic salt, and salt, and left overnight, then wrapped in foil and cooked for 3 hours in a very low oven, then basted with what was more of a barbecue sauce than a glaze of a small tin of chopped tomatoes + apple vinegar + dashes of tabasco and worcester sauce, simmered together, and cooked at a slightly higher temperature for 45 or so minutes - v tasty if a little dry - possibly did not need quite so long at that final stage; served with tenderstem broccoli and okra simmered for 45+ minutes in coconut milk with ginger paste and fresh coriander (possibly a little overdone?); baked San Marzano tomatoes; and cornbread (plain white flour + baking powder, half and half with mixture of fine/coarse cornmeal).
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European Travel for the Monstrous Gentelwoman
14%. Sequel to The Strange Case of the Alchemist's Daughter. This one is very long (over 24 hours in audiobook form) so I'll be at it for a while, but I'm enjoying it a lot.
Death at the Fireside Inn
42%. First in a new-to-me historical mystery series, but it's pretty mid so I doubt I'll continue the series.
The Death of Public School: How Conservatives Won the War Over Education in America
8%. Title is self-explanatory. I only read the first chapter so far, but it's interesting. Unfortunately I had to return it to the library, but I immediately put it on hold again and there was no one else waiting for it, so I should have it back soon.
The War on Alcohol: Prohibition and the Rise of the American State
29%.
Recently Finished
The Millicent Quibb School of Etiquette for Young Ladies of Mad Science
This was fun. A little on the too wacky side for me, but enjoyable. I'll check out the sequel when it's out.
Lone Women
Highly recommended. I really liked this a lot.
Murder on the Marlow Belle
I don't know why the US release of these books is so far behind the UK release. It's in the same language! But it is, and that's annoying. This was out in January in the UK and only came out in the US this month. The next one is out soon in the UK but I assume I'll have to wait a while to get it here. :(
Made in Chicago: Stories Behind 30 Great Hometown Bites
We watched someone on youtube talking about one of the dishes in this book and he mentioned that this is where he heard about it. The book sounded interesting, so we ordered it right away. It's only 130 pages and some of the dishes have recipes to make at home, so it's a very quick read. I should look and see if there's something like this for LA.
Kaikai Gigigigigi vol. 1
New series by Uguisu Sachiko. I like all her stuff so of course I bought it. To be honest, it seems very much like a retread of You Will Hear the Voice of the Dead, but I loved that series so I'm down for it. Protag is a very ordinary boy who keeps finding himself at the center of supernatural happenings in his town. Each chapter is basically a stand-alone horror story with a thin overarching plot linking them.
Kubikari vol. 1-4
Short four-volume horror manga that I only finished because it was so short. A group of high school kids go to an old hotel in the middle of nowhere to film something for their social media channel, only to get trapped there while people start dying. The motivations were very flimsy and the whole thing was just not very good, but since it was short I wanted to see how it ended.
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